I am 62 years of age as I write this. I’m also a father and a grandfather. I have had a long and successful career as a small business owner, a medical device industry executive, a software engineering manager and developer, as well as a firefighter and Emergency Medical Technician.
I graduated from The Ohio State University in 1983, where I earned a degree in Computer and Information Science. Later in 1983, my wife Stacey and I moved from Columbus, OH to Redmond, WA. Shortly thereafter, we bought a home in Woodinville, WA, where we lived for about thirty years.
While we were married, Stacey and I raised three wonderful children. Those children are adults now and live in the Seattle area with families of their own.
Stacey and I divorced in 2014. Today, we are on good terms, see each other at family events, care about each other, and enjoyed most of our married life together. We both consider ourselves fortunate for all of the many blessings we experienced.
As a recovering Nice Guy I well know the damage that the Nice Guy behaviors do to a man’s life and often to the lives of the people he loves the most.
For most of my adult life I have been a student of science and philosophy. Most recently, my interest has been sparked by ancient Indian religions such as Buddhism and Advaita Vedanta, and by the science of non-duality.
My partner of the last four years is a loving, feminine woman of approximately my own age. We are in a committed relationship. We enjoy our life together in the home we share in Kirkland, Washington, USA. We travel from time to time and love to visit our children and grandchildren. We both work and enjoy our own time with friends and special interests of our own.
About my practice
Integrated Man, LLC is my coaching practice for men. My clients are men who wish to live full and meaningful lives, and identify more strongly with their masculine nature than their feminine nature.
I work with men either on a one-to-one basis, as part of a men’s group of 4 – 6 other men, or a combination of both, depending on the wishes of the individual.
Before introducing a man into an existing men’s group I have a few individual meetings / coaching sessions with the man. This is to allow us to get to know each other and for us to contemplate his interest and readiness for men’s group work.
I am a certified “No More Mr. Nice Guy” coach and a recovering “Nice Guy” myself. I have been in recovery now for about six years. It has been transformational for me.
Note that I am not a psychotherapist or a licensed mental health professional. I do not provide psychotherapy or mental health services of any kind.
If at any time you sense that you need or want to work with such a therapist or other mental health professional you will find me entirely supportive of such work. If it appears to me that you might benefit from a therapeutic relationship of that kind, I will suggest it to you in private.
We learn to be honest men who say what we mean and mean what we say.
As a recovering Nice Guy I well know the damage that the Nice Guy behaviors do to a man’s life and often to the lives of the people he loves the most. My coaching practice is, in part, my way of “Paying it Forward” and working to help other men live their best possible lives.
Integrated Man is about helping us as men to learn to get our needs met in ways that are kind, compassionate, loving and consensual. We learn to be honest men who say what we mean and mean what we say.
Much of our work is focused on breaking free of the behaviors that keep us stuck in a dys-integrated state of being.
Individual coaching sessions are $120 per 55 minute session. The first two sessions are free; they allow both of us to decide whether we have a good basis for a productive coaching relationship. If you wish to continue with individual sessions you can do so. If you would like to participate in one of our men’s groups, you can do that too.
Participation in a men’s group is $200 per month. We will meet on an individual basis for a few sessions before introducing you to an existing men’s group. Joining a men’s group is making a commitment to yourself and the other men in the group to attend group meetings on a regular basis. Group meetings are typically two hours in length, giving each man ample time to participate in the group.
All clients of Integrated Man are offered positive and interesting challenges to pursue if they wish. These challenges are intended to help you to more fully develop your strong, lovingly positive masculine nature.
Integrated Man does not bill insurance companies. Payment by check or credit card is required before services are provided.